5 Things to Do Today to Get Closer to Meeting Your Future Spouse

If you’re feeling like love is taking its sweet time, don’t panic. You’re not stuck - you’re being invited to move. God works through both your prayer and your action. So here are six small but intentional steps you can take today to open the door just a little wider to the person He may be preparing for you.

1. Sign Up for Candid
Don’t just wait for “the one” to magically appear - place yourself where the right kind of people are actually looking for the same things you are. Candid is built to help Catholics discern dating and marriage intentionally and authentically. It's not about swiping your life away - it's about meeting real people who care about their faith, values, and future. If you haven't already, take 10 minutes today to sign up and complete your profile. Be prayerful, be honest, and don’t overthink it.

2. Invite One Friend to Pray with You for Your Vocation
This journey isn’t meant to be walked alone. Text or call a friend and ask them to pray with you for your future spouse - or just for clarity and peace about your vocation. Even better? Set a recurring time once a week. When two or more are gathered, God shows up (Matthew 18:20). Your vocation is not just about a future relationship - it’s about becoming who God made you to be, now.

3. Bring New People into Your Circle
Say yes to that social invite. Ask someone from church to grab coffee. Or host a casual hangout and tell a friend to bring someone new. The more people you know, the more people know you - and you never know how God might use a connection to open a door. Today, take one step that invites fresh faces into your orbit.

4. Get Out of the House (Seriously)
You’re not going to meet someone sitting on your couch. Go somewhere today where real human beings are - daily Mass, Adoration, a Catholic young adult event, a local coffee shop, even the gym. You don’t have to force an interaction, but being open and present is the first step. If the thought overwhelms you, simply ask yourself, “Where might someone who shares my values also choose to go today?” Then go.

5. Practice Warm, Open Body Language
You could be the kindest person in the world - but if you always have headphones in, avoid eye contact, or carry an energy of “don’t talk to me,” people won’t approach. Today, challenge yourself to smile at three people. Make eye contact. Say thank you with warmth. You’re not trying to “flirt your way to heaven” - you’re just practicing the art of being approachable and human.

6. Do One Thing That Makes You Feel Like the Best Version of Yourself
Before you focus on impressing anyone else, remind yourself that you’re worth showing up for. That could mean dressing intentionally today, journaling what you’re grateful for, going for a walk, making a healthy meal, or reading a chapter of a great book. The more you live in alignment with who God created you to be, the more naturally attractive you become.

You don’t have to overhaul your whole life to move closer to the relationship you desire. But you do have to participate. Marriage isn’t magic - it’s grace meeting your “yes.” Say yes today and entrust it all to the Holy Spirit.